Mercy

Joseph was both confrontational and merciful with his brothers when the found him in Egypt. They had sent him into slavery. He now was the second most powerful man in Egypt and could have ultimately done as he wished had he been adversarial. He did test to see if their hearts had changed. We never can know the heart of someone else but we can draw their thoughts and feelings out through our actions and words. He also showed favortism to Benjamin to see if they were jealous and he threatened Benjamins life to see if they would let evil fall on him. They had repented and were sorrowful for what they had done to Joseph and to their father. Even when we need to confront someone, we need to ultimately have a loving and kind stance. The best way to confront is usually to draw the issue out of the person rather than push it down their throat.